Detached

I write when I write

It’s been a minute since I have made an attempt to post. It was brought to my attention that I do not post as often as many other individuals that have blogs. And that in a crazy way made me smile, Mainly because I don’t write for other’s, I write for me. I appreciate those that my writings have touched or made think, yet at the same time I don’t write for the responses but I write for the therapy of getting out my own thoughts. With that being said, I write when I have something to say or have a need to write.

There is this thought that I always have something to say and that is so far from the truth. Am I opinionated, indeed! Do I speak my mind yes I do, however, when these scenarios take place its because I. have. something. to. say. duh! Now when it comes to writing, I don’t believe in writing just to write just to gain an audience or to keep traction. I believe in writing your truth, getting it out and those who it’s for will glean from it whether it’s a post a day or a post that comes in stride…

Write from within, write for you, write with a purpose, but never write for responses, reactions or the need of peoples acceptance of your writing. It’ll be for who it’s for. Period! which brings me to the point of this post.

Disconnection

I am known to literally drop off the face of the Earth without a single word. I like to free myself from the grip of this world and become isolated with myself to read, think, and just be one with myself. I regroup, focus and bring my thoughts & perspective, back into order. We live in a world now that everything is at our fingertips, social media being one that makes people feel like they have gained relationships and that they know people and the truth is as close as we feel to people they aren’t as close as you think they are.

It’s nice to post and comment and feel like all of the people you come in contact with via social media are friends but in reality, they are far from it, they are there to ignite a camaraderie only through technology. There is a huge part of me that enjoys the ways of old, knowing and understanding that real relationships are cultivated when you can touch, smell, and look at the individuals you deem important to share space with. Those that actually have your phone number and can come when you call, those that you can sit in a coffee shop with and converse with, those you can welcome into your home and break bread with.

There are many people who are connected to me online that think they know me based on what I post but have actually no idea of who I really am good or bad. When I detach from such platforms it gives me peace and an ability to tap back into the space that actually rejuvenates and feed me. It also removes those who aren’t actually connected and puts them out of reach. Social media and technology have caused us to lose a lot even though we feel like we have gained a lot with it.

The unbroken circle

When you detach from the artificial and reattach to those things that really matter it allows you to realign your focus back to what’s right in front of you and cause everything else that once distracted you to fade into the background. As great as social media is, it can become a distraction. We find ourselves looking at the lives of others more than we focus on our own, we like and comment and scroll repeatedly for hours without any conviction, wasting time unnecessarily. We feel as though we aren’t distracted because we are using it to build “our brand” yet we do not do anything for “our brand” outside of social media. So what happens when social media is no longer available, how will our relationships/connections be cultivated?

By detaching you are able to know who’s really in your circle, whose number is actually in your phone, who can contact you when you aren’t connected to Apps. It’ll cause you to call your circle and meet up and sit across from each other and have conversations, laughter, and not once have to look down at your phone. Because you have to actually engage with who you are in front of without having your phone as your crutch. Your authentic circle is important, building relationships that are meant to be personal in person.

And most of all building the relationship with yourself without the need to pick your phone up every minute just to repeat what you did five minutes ago by scrolling. By detaching, disabling your apps for a time, and uninstalling them from your phone forces you to look at the sky when you walk out your door, take in the trees and smell the blooming flowers.  You are able to witness life going on around you that we often ignore because we are too busy looking down instead of out and up. Taking in all that is around us and throwing ourselves into the beauty of this Earth that technology cant give you. Hugging the people in the pictures instead of always liking them. Detaching will show you when it all falls down who is truly around you. There is nothing wrong with social media it has its place but in the grand scheme of things I believe we have lost the balance of it and that it guides us more than anything else in our life.

Let’s go back to a time when phones were not the focus but that being with people actually was. When books gave us knowledge, not memes, when the attraction wasn’t based on the falseness of filters, plastic surgery and imagery that isn’t authentic but the attraction was guided through mental, spirit and connection from that tangible engagement with people.

We scream we want real and authenticity yet, we believe more of what we see through a cropped photo or a 60-sec video than we do from a real person in real time. You will never truly know people or yourself from social media, you will only know people by first understanding who you are and second by reclaiming your time and occupying space with people.

If this post isn’t for you and you are able to balance it all, good. But if you are one who knows that it has become a distraction yet, you can’t seem to part from it, you may want to consider doing just that-parting from it for a time. Not deleting but just disabling. Trust me, everything that you feel like you will miss will be there when you get back. And truly those connections you need the most are already in your reach, just pick up the phone. If you use the platform for business that’s awesome but even with business and work, people take PTO and vacation time. There is a world out here outside of social media. There is a life separate from that platform, we all once lived it, don’t get caught up in an artificial world and forget about the real world. Selah!

2 thoughts on “Detached

  1. I am snapping my fingers for ALL of this!!! Yes and when we detach from social media it does realign us. I like where you said, do we promote our brand outside of social media? That is true food for thought. Thank you for this early morning straight to the point read!!!

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